In order to get what YOU want, you have to know what YOU want.
The key word is YOU. What is it that YOU want, and are you sure it is what YOU want?
Many times we want what others want for us or we want what we think we should for us. When our wants are motivated or determined by the wants of others, our wants are being sought after out of loyalty. Loyalty says, “I do for you and in return you do for me”. In this scenario, we want what others or society wants for us, in return for their acceptance or rewards.
The opposite of loyalty is respect. The two may seem similar, and in some “organizations” they are used interchangeably (I believe it is designed to confuse their difference, or perhaps the user of the two words is just as confused), but the words are antagonists to each other, at least that is my experience. Respect says, “I do what is right and authentic for me in this moment”.
Loyalty has the expectation that the other (person or society) gives something back in return (whether physical like money or emotional like acceptance) for what we did.
Respect has the expectation that we be given the opportunity to grow personally from the decision to be our own person.
Are your wants authentic out of respect for yourself, or are they fabricated out of loyalty?
How might we determine that? Is there joy and passion in the seeking of your wants, even when there is challenge or turmoil in that same search? That may or may not be a good question in bringing us closer to our truth.
What can you do with this new awareness?
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